The Waiting Game

Darling Days

Jul 13

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I have a confession: I don’t like to wait.

What is it about us millennials? Or maybe it’s not you and just me, but patience is a virtue and I most definitely don’t have it. When someone says wait — whether it’s 1 minute for the Internet to load, 1 hour spent sitting in traffic, 1 week waiting for an email reply, or 1 year for say … healing of a sickness, a dream to come true, a situation to turn around, a certain person to walk in – I find myself getting extremely antsy about the entire process. Wait? Me? No way – I want this and I want it now. So if I can’t have it now, I’ll just take something else instead, right? There’s something about the 21st Century and our “see it, buy it” mentality that has gotten me all out of whack. The idea of “now” most definitely seems way more appealing than waiting on God’s perfect timing.

One of the many lessons I’ve learned over the past year or two is the waiting game. A lot of young girls ask me “What piece of advice do you have for girls trying to start a business?” My answer? “Patience.” Often the reply I receive is, “Oh for sure! So what else?”

Haha — I can tell it usually stirs some sort of uncomfortable feeling in those asking, because, of course! We want it and we want it nowwwww (you can hear me crying this in a very high-pitched and whiny voice right now). I can argue with my once young impatient self and remind her that – if things happened in the timing I had wanted them to, everything would be one large, unorganized, immature, makes-me-stressed-out-thinking-about-it mess.

In the middle of growing up, I’ve found that we really (really!) will get there when we are meant to get there – not one moment sooner, not one moment later. Instead of rushing things that need time to grow, my current ambition is to be grateful for and during my waiting seasons. Have I conquered this? Absolutely not! But I can at least acknowledge the fact that I will constantly find myself waiting in certain stages of life, and that these pauses are 100% put there to prepare us for the best that is yet to come.  There is no need to rush, no need to back out, so don’t fuel any those tempting thoughts of giving up (yes they will come, and no, you don’t have to listen). Timing is everything, and God is always on time.

In the middle of that very uncomfortable waiting stage, you will find yourself becoming stronger, and you will find yourself molding into the only person who can truly handle what’s waiting for you on the other side. Part of the struggle (and key) to finding patience is simply being thankful in the mess, for everything falls apart before it falls together. Do you, too, have a hard time when things are put on pause? Chat with me below, XOXO

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  1. I can totally relate to wanting it now! I struggle with patience, too. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to see that good things take time, but they will happen. I still get impatient with the process, but that’s life. Learning to appreciate what you have right now is important — and what you’re seeking will come in due time. Great post!

    1. Thanks Vanessa! Yes, the wisdom of patience is most definitely something that comes with time! So true, happy Wednesday! XOXO – Jessi

    1. Helen

      Oops! Accidentally pasted an article in here! Although it’s a good read, it was not intentional!

      XO Helen @ www,

    2. Yes, instant gratification has definitely played its role in my impatience game! Such a good point – thanks for sharing, Helen! (and haha! no worries, sounds like something I would do!) XOX Jessi

  2. Alex

    God works in mysterious ways… I needed to read this post today. Loved it!

    XOXO, Alex

  3. Marissa // Style cusp

    Love this post, girl! Literally in the same boat and God is teaching me to just Be Still before Him – as hard as it is, it is cultivating such a sweet relationship with Him. Love youuu <3 xxxx

    1. Loved following you on Pinterest lately… I can TOTALLY tell! So glad to hear it!! Miss you! XOZO

  4. stylemelauren

    oh my gosh…waiting is so hard!! And so annoying!! but I think you’re right – during the time you are waiting you totally grow and get stronger! Love trusting in God for this too!! Hope you have fun in LA! XO


    1. Thanks Lauren! Totally agree 🙂 having the best time in LA, appreciate your support sweet girl! Xo

  5. Morgan

    Truer words have not been spoken! Patience is something I struggle with ((esp in growing my blog into a business))! Let go, and let God! Thanks for the reminder!

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    1. Yes girl I love that. That sounds like a Pinterest quote and I’m loving it!! ❤️❤️????

  6. Briana Anderson

    I absolutely love this! I am exactly the same way, and having to adapt as time goes by. Great inspo!

    xx, Bri ||

    1. Patience is a virtue isn’t it?! Thanks for commenting! Xoxoxo J

  7. Daryl-Ann Denner

    SO true! Especially as a goal-chaser, it”s hard to accept that sometimes God has a purpose in the “chasing” part. I am totally guilty of wanting God’s blessing on what I’m doing so that I can have it “now.” 😉 Thanks so much for sharing!! xo

    1. Agreed – it’s so hard to put a pause on wanting it right.. Now! Xoxox J

  8. Megan nolan

    Your blog is wonderful and you’re so pretty! Thanks for being real and not just telling women what they want to hear.

  9. Sakeenah aleem

    Loved this! Glad to know I’m not the only one going through this! It’s all in timing and I’m enjoying every moment of my time!

  10. Emelyne behr

    I needed to hear this! I’ve been in the waiting game for a longgg time. I’ve been trying to grow my YouTube channel and it feels like everyone is zooming past me. But like you said we have to wait on Gods timing. Thanks so much for posting this! Xx

  11. Maria middle of Noir

    What a great message! Really inspirational and motivational… There are times I get discouraged with my blogging but you remind me have patience and keep pushing along. Thank you!

  12. Michelle Joseph

    Great post. I can so relate.

    Mich x

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