Last week I met up with an old friend that I hadn’t seen since 2016. “What’s new?!” The question that everyone asks was plopped right on the table in front of me.
“…Well, Chloe got a bath last week.”
Kidding – but not kidding. Side smiling to myself, I dove back into my past memories from 2017 and I hurriedly tried to think of what I had “achieved” over the last year – especially with my career, or concerning my goals, or relationship status or whatever. But what in the world have I been doing? It was like they were expecting me to spill about a new boyfriend (HA!) or that I was the next immaculate conception or something (just kidding y’all, it’s a JOKE), or some big news with the blog.
The only thing that came to mind was how we paid our taxes this year. Yeah girl – we paid estimated taxes, because that’s exactly how I love diving into deep meaningful convo … taxes.
Oh, and I went to Michigan.
I sat there pretty stumped. Looking back on 2017 – I had a hard time gathering “what’s new,” when so much of my outer world looks the same. It was my inner world that made big changes. And I must admit, I felt a bit “disappointed” with myself for not having a shiny “what’s new” answer.
Things turned around a couple of days down the road when I was reading a new book. What I took away was: Life’s fulfillment lies in not what you achieve, it’s who you become.
Let’s throw in the word “character.” It’s a sensitive word. Not used so much in the Instagram world, huh? In fact, maybe… never. The things that our culture expects to grade ourselves on are transitional; they are temporary. Yada yada beauty fades, goals are made then forgotten, boyfriends change, jobs are unpredictable, momentum dies, clothes wear out, but behind of all those things – who is she?
Fast forward 50 years and I hope that no one will be dishing out today’s likes and following numbers, work sales quotas, 2017 Instagram filters, hair extension trends, press lists and partnerships. What they’re going to remember from “way back in the day” is the… heart. Did 2017’s achievements build you up or tear you down? Are you building a shiny new inside or are you building a shiny new outside for others to see? Is your goal one that you’ll forget about the minute you achieve it?
So as I started to pull out my goal list, my work identity checklist, my achievement status — I held my horses. This one begins and ends with who I’m becoming and that gives me way more to smile about, and isn’t something that fades.
This post is short and sweet – but I love opening up the convo about character. Especially in a social media industry where character is often covered by filters and followers, and lacks the face-to-face personal experience. Do you have any favorite quotes that catch your eye?
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